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9/21    Dear motd loser who posted "Female wants to keep last name, male
        wants her to take his, marriage this summer, what do you do" guy:
        http://csua.com/?entry=17194
        Did you ever resolve the issue and how?
        \- to the guy: she gets to keep the name ... since it is hers.
           but since you are buying the ring, you get to choose between
           DIAMOND and DIAMEL. --not debeers
           \_ if the man hyphenates his last name, then the kids can have
              the same hyphenated last name too!

emacs user was here
\- you may wish to use:
(defun next-line (arg)
  "Move cursor vertically down ARG lines.
   ... If at the end of the buffer, it will add up to
  next-line-max-inserted-newlines newline characters to
  allow moving to the next line."
  (interactive "p")
  (if (= arg 1)
      (let ((opoint (point)))
        (forward-line 1)
        (if (or (= opoint (point))
                (not (eq (preceding-char) ?\n)))
            (if (< (- (point)
                      (save-excursion
                        (skip-chars-backward "\n")
                        (point)))
                   next-line-max-inserted-newlines)
                (insert ?\n))
          (goto-char opoint)
          (next-line-internal arg)))
    (next-line-internal arg))
  nil)
\_ Just add (setq next-line-add-newlines nil) to your ~/.emacs.
   \- the above lets you pick how many blank-lines are ok. i set to 2.
      i find this more useful than the binary option.
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Then no one will remember that you even have a last name. Seems like the only issue that should have to be joint agreement is what to give the kids as a name. Choosing a new name together is another option that reduces the child issue and lets both parties express themselves. Incompatible people getting married because "we love each other" or "it was just time" is why the divorce rate is so high. Have you agreed to raise them in the same reloigion or non-religiously? Have you discussed what you'll do if one of you gets a killer job somewhere else? As others have already pointed out, it's deeper than that. If she isn't willing to take his name, she'll be a bitch of a wife. She'll feel pretty stupid when peole dont think she's the mother because they have different last names. Wife went through this, as part of 'familial separation anxiety'. Please tell me you have no serious relationship plans for at least the next 10 years until you grow up and learn some tiny bit about life. It's obviously the guy's fault since he was lame enough to ask the motd. That's the part where we have to ask, "Is this a troll \_ Who says the male is the one posting? This is a problem for many couples today and the motd has nothing to do with it either way. If this isn't a troll then they have real problems and probably other questions that they need to work out before they get married. Saying he's automatically wrong because he was lame enough to ask on the motd is stupid. If Ricky Martin marries Mariah Carey, then Marrey or Cartin. You have to go to court, change all sorts of documents, get a million government and credit folks and others to acknowledge it, blah, blah, blah. what do you think many women do every time they get married? They don't just start using the new last name and have it magically be their new legal name. And why do you go off about things you know nothing about when others who do know have already told you otherwise? Tried telling your physics prof that gravity doesn't really work? You can use whatever name you want without restriction unless it is for fraudulent purposes. There's the name you use and put on random documents and there's "legally changing your name". This is the full name on your birth certificate liscense, for instance, with any name you want. Your passport can have "aka" names listed on it but the primary name which is required is your legal name, not what you call yourself and sign other documents with. Yes, in fact, the government can prevent you from changing your legal name and makes it reasonably difficult to do so. But it won't get you back into the country after aliens kidnap you and leave you in Singapore. My friend's given name is Rocky and he got it changed to Eric when he was 18 without difficulty. The judge just laughed at him and then signed the paperwork.