9/20 Etiquette question: my gf's boss invited her to his son's bar-mitzvah.
What is a proper attire to wear for non Jewish women? Black & white
only? Long sleeves only? Can you have color? Can you take
pictures? Thanks.
\_ Ok my gf just wore long dress. Turns out they had a super fancy
one with 200 people attending. They spent ~$30K on a bar-mitzvah.
Is that how much they normally cost? It's very impressive.
\_ $30K was more than my wedding, a LOT more. If you're spending
that much on a 13 year old kid, it says a lot about how much
you value bar-mitzvah. Or it could just mean that Jewish
people ARE rich!
\_ Mazel Tov! Think in terms of what you would wear to go to church,
remembering that the actual Bar Mitzvah ceremony will be part of
a service at a synagogue. Think in terms of a dress, a nice pants
suit, or a skirt and nice top. Dress shoes and, if cooler weather,
stockings. Nothing flashy or showing much flesh. There is typically
no need for a head covering--if the congregation likes women to
have head coverings, there'll have something in the lobby for you
to put on. Colors are okay, although subdued would be best.
A card including a check made out to the son is best, which you
can give to the father anytime except during the service. If you've
been invited to a party or a reception afterwards, that's a good
time. It's traditional in Judaism to give money in multiples of $18,
so think something like $54 or $72 or $90, depending on what you
can afford and whether you've been invited only to the service or
to a party afterward. In terms of the service, it will be a
combination of English and Hebrew. The boy will recite prayers in
Hebrew, and a portion of the Torah (what you may call the Old
Testament) in Hebrew. There may also be a short speech in English.
Just stand when the congregation stands and sit when they sit. If
you understand the prayers and are comfortable reciting them with
the congregation, do so, otherwise it's okay, since you're a
visitor, just to read along in the prayer book (called a Siddur).
\_ Give a card that says "In lieu of a gift, my tax dollars
were sent to Israel".
\_ LOL good one!!! It's almost Seinfeld material.
\- ok tnx |
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