11/18   've been dating a woman for the last 3 months.  She lives in San Rafael
         and I live in Oakland.  I usually only see her on the
        weekends unless she comes out to visit during the week because
        neither one of us drives.  Obviously this is not an ideal
        situation but we both feel strongly about eachother.  The
        problem is she has become extremely jealous and doesn't
        believe that I am always working when she is not around.  I
        have a full time job and just bought a fixer-upper house which
        I've been remodeling in the afternoons.  My phone never rings
        with other women's calls when she is around and I've never
        lied to her about where I'm at.  Any idea how I can get her to
        trust me?
        \_ A misspent youth with 70s TV tells me you should arrange an
           elaborate scenario involving a case of mistaken identity, a
           perfectly innocent friendship with a smoking hot model, a midget,
           at least two different four star hotels, a car chase, and a long
           night stuck in an elevator. And then she'll trust you forever.
           \_ Best motd answer, ever.
              \_ I agree.  It was a thing of beauty.
        \_ Sounds like a warning sign to me.  Get out while you can.
        \_ You don't know how to drive?
           \_Sure I know how to drive.  I just bicycle everywhere, and she
             is from Peru, so she does not have a license.  Since dating
                \_ You know, her being from Peru might explain the jealousy.
                   It's pretty much cultural norm in South America for men
                   to have a huge "macho" streak and that means multiple
                   women, if they can.  You might discuss this with her
                   directly.
                   \_ She actually thought that US men were less loyal and
                      more likely to sleep around than Peruvian's.  I told
                      her shit like that is a personal choice. -op
                      \_ It's personal choice for most of the men in the US.
                         If we could spread our genes everywhere, we would.
                         We have the evolutionary advantage.
                         \_ Speak for yourself. Sex might be fun but spreading
                            genes doesn't matter to me. It doesn't do anything
                            for me. Do you donate to sperm banks?
                            \_ deep down inside, that is what many of us want.
                               we all want to win the evolutionary race.
                               \_ Intelligence: not necessarily a survival
                                  trait.
                            \_ A clear failure of the selfish gene concept.
                      \_ Are you sure she isn't from Nepal?
                      \_ I've heard so many funny sterotypes about Americans
                         for foreigners.  It's particularly funny because they
                         are often also likely to say things like, "You don't
                         know anything about us, but we know everything about
                         you."
                         \_ Yes.  I've heard all foreigners are like that.
                         \_ I like how Japanese presume that Americans
                            will steal. Where do they get that idea from?
                            \_ American military men steal and rape Okinawa
                               women. Stop the American occupation!
                               \_ I heard all Okinawan women look like Mr
                                  Miyagi
                                  \_ While that may be true, Mr. Miyagi looks
                                     sexy when you're in a foreign military
                                     zone and haven't had sex for ages.
             her I've gone out and renewed my license and am buying a car
             so that I can see her more often.  This goes against most of my
             morals, but I am willing to do it for her.
             \_ And yet she's crazy jealous with no evidence. Danger, Danger!
                \_ Presumably you are not telling her not to come to your
                   place.  So if she is jealous, tell her she's free to stop
                   by.
                   \_ If she came by she'd run into his other gfs.