6/28    my girlfriend informs me she doesn't really feel any inner
        desire anymore to have sex.  you know how some girls have
        a drawer they keep their sex toys in?  my girlfriend
        has a fucking mail crate.  what should i do.?
        \_ Counseling, medication, dump her.  Whatever order you like.
           Unless of course, you just suck in bed..  Then there's little
                                                                  \_ ha ha
           that can be done.
                \_ is there meds with this stuff?  Do people really wake
                   up and become Anti Paladin Der Furious motd boob guy?
         \_ is the mention of the sex toys to illustrate how much she
           once loved sex?  Or is this a new development?  She's turning
           to the toys as a substitute?  Or maybe she is realizing she's
           gay now?  The possibilities are endless!  It doesn't sound like
           your relationship is very healthy- you need to put some serious
           work into saving it, or just end it.  I recommend picking one
           or the other very very soon, like today.    --brain
        \_ Either you're a bad lover or she's cheating on you.
           \_ Don't listen to this person above. They are clueless.
        \_ Not much you can do, dude. Now you know what marriage is like.
        \_ If you love her enough to want to stick it out, get used to self-
           service and give it time. Depending on what else is going on in her
           life (family, work, etc.), this may just be a phase. If sex is more
           important than she is, consider yourself lucky you found out before
           you got married, and move on.
           \_ Give it time?  No, give it work.  This takes communication
              and probably therapy (if it's worth saving).  A change in
              sexual dynamics doesn't come from nowhere.  And going from
              a contented sex life to a sexless relationship isn't the same
              as, say, wanting to change careers.
              \_ You're right, a change in sexual dynamics doesn't come from
                 nowhere. It sometimes comes from external pressures that you
                 have no hope of actually changing or affecting, in which case
                 communication and support is a good idea, but the overall
                 prescription is patience. In other words, it's not necessarily
                 about you.
        \_ It kind of depends on how long you have been going out together,
           what else is working and not working for you in the relationship,
           and how important sex is to you. If everything else is fine and
           you have been going out for a while, it is probably worth trying
           to figure out what is going on. It is also possible that this is
           just her way of saying she wants to break up, especially if you
           have only been going out for a few months.