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2007/2/14-17 [Recreation/Dating] UID:45737 Activity:nil
2/14    Valentine's Day special:
        http://www.csua.org/u/i1i
        Do Silicon Valley geeks really want to date over the hill
        Marina chicks?
        \_ Holy crap!  In that fashion pic. Marv Su is wearing almost the
           exact button up shirt my wife got me, and I refused to wear!
           \_ Why the hell would you refuse to wear that, especially when
              it was a gift?
              \_ It wasn't exactly a gift, she generally buys clothes for me
                 when she goes shopping, and returns the ones I don't like.
                 It's hard to see in the photo, but on mine the grid pattern
                 was barbie-purple.  It looked like something the nerd from a
                 bad 80's teen movie would wear.  Apparently it's now in
                 fashion.
                 \_ "barbie-purple".  :-)
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Amy Andersen, a professional matchmaker, found a match of... Silicon Valley, with its cerebral intensity and unrelenting sense of urgency, is an all-hours kind of joint, where napkin-jotters and bonanza-dreamers patter away at keyboards, determined to wring opportunity from every moment. That kind of all-consuming careerism comes with a catch. As the work-obsessed get closer to middle age, opportunities to find romance dwindle. These Silicon Valley Bridget Joneses, who embedded themselves in cubicles during the 1990s high-tech boom, are waking up to what they missed while they were logged on and tuned out to love. "When you are in your early 30s, you are really focused on your career. You don't take it very seriously," said Marv Su, a 44-year-old vice president of marketing at Vindicia Inc. "All of a sudden, you wake up one day and think, 'Wait a second. Being focused on work all the time is not what it's cut out to be. They are getting too old to cruise trendy Yelp parties or to ride the N-Judah in hopes of getting picked up on Craigslist's "Missed Connections." They haven't found a single drinking establishment between Palo Alto and San Jose that serves up a better ratio of men to women than Anchorage, Alaska. They frequently are too busy to devote enough time to online dating services. Meanwhile, the friends who used to set them up with eligible singles have peeled off in minivans lined with child safety seats and Slurpee-resistant upholstery. "What I really came to understand is that I would have to be more methodical about dating and come up with a game plan," Su said. So he turned to a cottage industry that has blossomed to help Silicon Valley solos meet their match: high-class, high-priced yentas. 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