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11/22 http://preview.tinyurl.com/y6len7 (reuniting.info) One of the secrets of success-- don't have sex. Harness your sexual energy on something else, it'll be rewarding. \_ I suggest videogames. http://preview.tinyurl.com/y4as4p (mensnewsdaily.com) Criminal activity and intellectual achievement seemed to drop off when the scientist or crock got married and started a family. \_ I don't think that has to do with sex, I think it has to do with responsibility. Otherwise achivement would start back up in middle age. |
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| preview.tinyurl.com/y6len7 -> www.reuniting.info/wisdom/sex_abundance_napoleon_hill_think_and_grow_rich More Wisdom articles "The Transformation of Mediocrity into Genius through Sex Transmutation" Napoleon Hill Remember Napoleon Hill's classic Think and Grow Rich? The Mystery of Sex: Transmutation chapter he explains that sexual magnetism is the key to personal success--when correctly harnessed. Intriguingly, modern neuroscience is beginning to reveal how sex might indeed impact our internal abundance programming either positively or negatively. First Key: Avoiding a Sense of Loss Orgasm can set up an addictive cycle--a phenomenon Hill recognized: Every intelligent person knows that stimulation in excess, through alcoholic drink and narcotics, is a form of intemperance which destroys the vital organs of the body, including the brain. Not every person knows, however, that over indulgence in sex expression may become a habit as destructive and as detrimental to creative effort as narcotics or liquor. Now modern neuroscience has revealed that the addictiveness of sex is due to dopamine--the enticing neurochemical that drives the reward center of the brain's limbic system. Employing dopamine, evolution has shaped us to pursue passion at any cost because it increases our genetic success. While the sap is rising, we may feel empowered and invincible. In the process, however, dopamine over-stimulates the brain. The lows, in combination with other, natural neurochemical changes, can create feelings of depression, depletion, irritability, neediness or needing space. Often we are also desperate for another high, while at the same time, our lover looks increasingly less attractive. The result can be an addictive cycle not unlike a recreational drug user experiences. Indeed, Dutch scientist Gert Holstege reported not long ago that scans of men climaxing resemble those of people shooting heroin. Recurring sensations of depletion and neediness from an overly-active sex life can undercut our ability to "think ourselves rich." This may be why Hill, who believed that highly sexed people were blessed, also recommended conserving sexual energy: Think and Grow Rich (recent edition) No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them. Man is the only creature on earth which violates Nature's purpose in this connection. Every other animal responds to the call of sex only in "season." The lives of many reflect a continued dissipation of energies, which could have been more profitably turned into better channels. Their finer and more powerful emotions are sown wildly to the four winds. Second Key: Increasing a Sense of Abundance Says Hill, A man may attain to great heights of financial or business achievement solely by the driving force of sex energy, but history is filled with evidence that he may, and usually does, carry with him certain traits of character which rob him of the ability to either hold, or enjoy his fortune. Therefore Hill emphasizes the importance of uniting love with sex. Painting of dancing couple by Mara McWilliams Love, Romance, and Sex are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion which serves as a safety valve, and insures balance, poise, and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift one to an altitude of a genius. Once again, a growing body of research supports his insight that love produces changes that affect us subtly, but profoundly. The means is another neurochemical called oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone" or "love hormone." We produce oxytocin at will when we engage in affectionate touch or selflessly nurture another. Oxytocin is unique among neurochemicals in that the more we produce, the more receptive our nervous systems become to it. Oxytocin counters the effects of stress, helps relieve depression, decreases both cravings and the symptoms of withdrawal, and increases sexual receptivity. It produces feelings of "all is right with the world," the perfect mindset for creating abundance. Oxytocin may be the reason behind the results of numerous studies associating long-term intimate relationships with better health and greater longevity. Perhaps Hill was getting at this phenomenon when he observed that, woman No man is happy or complete without the modifying influence of the right woman. The man who does not recognize this important truth deprives himself of the power which has done more to help men achieve success than all other forces combined. Hill's Solution Although Hill died in 1970, long before the research summarized above, he foresaw that brain chemistry held the key to inner equilibrium. "Destructive emotions, through the chemistry of the mind, may destroy one's sense of justice and fairness, and even, in extreme cases, one's reason." Sex has the power to shift brain chemistry for the worse, unless it is used carefully and lovingly. As Hill observed, cyclone Sex, alone, is a mighty urge to action, but its forces are like a cyclone -- they are often uncontrollable. When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise, accuracy of judgment, and balance. To profit from Hill's wisdom we have only to increase the affectionate contact between lovers while avoiding the feelings of depletion that accompany excess passion. Hill, incidentally, is not the only observer who recommended making love with self-control to improve health and genius. Both John Humphrey Noyes and Alice Bunker Stockham, MD recorded similar benefits. The spiritual benefits of this practice are also mentioned in Lao Tzu's Hua Hu Ching, the Tibetan Buddhist myth Sky Dancer: The Secret Life and Songs of the Lady Yeshe Tsogyel, and even in the Gnostic Gospels discovered in Nag Hammadi, Egypt in the 1940's. E-mail: Subscribe Unsubscribe Submit Google search Reuniting The Web Search The search box above allows you to search this site or the web with Google in the usual way. Karezza: Ethics of Marriage by Alice Bunker Stockham, MD (1903) This site contains copyrighted material the use of which has not always been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making such material available in our efforts to advance understanding of the science behind human mating patterns and addiction, and the relevance of parallels revealed in various spiritual traditions. 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| preview.tinyurl.com/y4as4p -> www.mensnewsdaily.com/archive/a-b/blacksmith/2005/blacksmith040605.htm April 6, 2005 by Darren Blacksmith Testosterone has a bad reputation. The public image of it is closely linked to the idea of dumb aggression, to the caveman. In recent years new research is starting to show that it would be more accurate to associate this much maligned hormone with Newton, Da Vinci, Einstein and Edison than the rough and brutal Neanderthal. Testosterone, it seems, could be the true driver of our civilisations. Satoshi Kanazawa at the University of Canterbury, New Zealand, studied the biographies of 280 scientists and plotted their intellectual achievements against their ages. He discovered something extremely revealing: the curves of age-achievement in scientists was not only repeated in jazz musicians, painters and authors, but mirrored the curves of age-criminal activity in criminals. Furthermore, both criminal activity and intellectual achievement seemed to drop off when the scientist or crock got married and started a family. Criminal and high-level intellectual activity have the same underlying motor according to Kanazawa: testosterone. This would also explain why most criminal and high level intellectual activities are carried out by the male of the species. Testosterone is a hormone that males produce in far greater quantity than females. It begins production while the individual is still in the womb, and effects brain development. Testosterone levels tend to peak in the early twenties, and by middle age drop off dramatically. High levels of testosterone have been reported to be correlated with dominant behaviour. This dominance does not necessarily express itself aggressively. Also, interestingly, the relationship between testosterone levels and behaviour works both ways: taking part in competitive activity can raise levels of testosterone; furthermore, winning can increase it, losing can make it decrease. Kanazawa's paper is not absolute proof that testosterone is the key driver of exceptional male behaviour, but it is an elegant and persuasive argument. Should it really be such a surprise that males have historically had a monopoly on both criminal activity and genius-level accomplishments? Are we really to believe that this is all a co-incidence, and the true reason for male behaviour is the 'Patriarchy', as feminists and political correctoids would have us believe? A related area to testosterone's drive for dominance is the sex-drive. It is hard to measure because it can only really be objectively measured by activity (ie amount of sexual activity one indulges in). A vector is a combination of two factors (in this case: opportunity to have sex + drive to have sex; or lack of willpower to refrain from sex x drive to have sex) therefore we cannot resolve out these two factors and determine whether the person has a high sex drive or merely has lots of opportunities to have sex OR a low willpower to resist their drive. Nevertheless, even if we can't always measure the sex-drive of a person objectively, that does not mean it doesn't exist. And sometimes things that one cannot measure objectively can simply be observed or perceived through common sense. Men certainly, at least historically, have had a greater expression of sex drive than women. Particularly young men, who are often in a frenzy to sleep with as many females as possible. Sexual desire - like water - can be managed and channelled, but it is much harder to eliminate. Rather, you should seek to give it other channels of expression. Maybe sex-drive is another way to measure achievement, or rather the sublimation of sex drive into purposeful goal-driven behaviour. Leaders are readers, and one book stands out more than any other in history as a bible of the wealthy: 'Think and grow rich' by Napoleon Hill. Mr Hill spent years studying the rich and working out what made them that way. He then wrote many books on the subject, of which the most famous is 'Think and grow rich'. Chapter 10 of the book is entitled 'The mystery of sex transmutation'. Here are a few interesting quotations from this chapter: "Destroy the sex glands, whether in man or beast, and you have removed the major source of action. For proof of this, observe what happens to any animal after it has been castrated. "A teacher who has trained and directed the efforts of more than 30,000 salespeople, made the astounding discovery that highly sexed men are the most efficient salesmen. The explanation is, that the factor of personality known as "personal magnetism" is nothing more nor less than sex energy." And here is the most important quote: "I have discovered, from the analysis of over 25,000 people, that men who succeed in an outstanding way, seldom do so before the age of forty, and more often they do not strike their real pace until they are well beyond the age of fifty. The major reason why the majority of men who succeed do not begin to do so before the age of forty to fifty is their tendency to dissipate their energies through over-indulgence in physical expression of the emotion of sex. The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance that of mere physical expression. The majority of those who those who make this discovery, do so after having wasted many years at a period when the sex energy is at its height, prior to the age of forty-five to fifty. Biographies of American industrialists and financiers are filled with evidence that the period from forty to sixty is the most productive age of man." When young men chase women for sex, they are throwing their wild oats into the wind. They are dissipating their energies, short-circuiting their currents to get a quick spark of pleasure which then leaves them in darkness. In order to get a continuous light-source there needs to be an element of resistance (called the filament in a light-bulb). Sex is used constantly by advertisers and marketers to entice men to buy things. Also, women and girls today routinely dress in extremely provocative clothes, even in the workplace. All this adds up to more invitations to think about sex today than men suffered in the past. If it were not for my hatred of the language of victimology I would call this is a form of sexual harassment of men. This plays brilliantly into the hands of women, who obviously would like nothing more than to 'bump up' the market value of their sexual favours. Indeed, this relationship between the need to increase their sexual market value and the increasing 'sexiness' of women's appearance can be observed in society. As women have become more harsh and less feminine in some of their behaviours (thus depleting the attractiveness of their personalities to men) they have had to compensate by turning up the volume of their physical appeal: shorter skirts, lower-cut tops, exposing their stomachs etc. This ends up harming them though, as they are only wanted for sex, and not their personality. A more temperate attitude towards sex would be healthier for both men and women. It would allow men to concentrate on more important things, and it might allow women to develop their personalities and not just their looks. Science references: 'Why productivity fades with age: The crime-genius connection', Kanazawa, S, Journal of Research in Personality 37 (2003) 257-272 'Testosterone and dominance in men', Mazur,A. |