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Videos You are here: Guides Safer Experiences Gay Sperm Safer Experiences This guide has been compiled to assist barebackers through the provision of material highlighting issues and promoting awareness, but you need to understand that barebacking will always have its risks. You must not rely upon this guide as a way to avoid contracting HIV or other Sexually Transmitted Infections, as the safest form of anal sex is to use a condom or not have sex at all. Looking for the right guy You need to make sure that you find a guy who you feel comfortable with. If you want to make your barebacking experience safer, it is recommended that you bareback with a long term partner if you are in a monogamous relationship, or someone who you can really trust. Perhaps you have a friend who you have known for a long time, he may be another safer option. If you decide to bareback with someone you don't know or someone who you haven't known for very long, you need to be careful and understand that you could be placing yourself in a risky situation. It is preferrable that you bareback with someone you can trust, someone you feel is honest and someone who you feel comfortable with. Remember that some guys will tell you anything just to get what they want. Establishing whether he is the right guy Once you have found a potential bareback partner, do a little research. You don't need to have a checklist of questions on standby, just ask a few key questions which you feel are important. Discuss your HIV status freely with him, ask him if he believes whether he is HIV negative, when he was last tested and whether his past partners were HIV negative. Also find out whether he has any other Sexually Transmitted Infections, as HIV is not the only Sexually Transmitted Infection you can transmit through barebacking. Try not to make a big deal about it and feel relaxed as you ask the questions in a casual manner, but let him know that you want some honest answers, as knowing the truth is important to you. Ask him to be honest and make him feel more comfortable by telling him that you will be honest with him if he has any questions for you. Don't forget to look for some possible Sexually Transmitted Infections symptoms such as the surface of his skin, genital area and his eyes. Until he takes his clothing off, you can't check out his genital area and remember that you cannot see symptoms for some Sexually Transmitted Infections such as HIV and Hepatitis B Making the decision whether he is right for you Have you made a decision yet? Has he given you responses to your questions that you feel comfortable with? Was he confident with his responses, or did he appear to answer them awkwardly, dishonestly or in a rush like he didn't seem to care? There are quite a few things to remember and you need to make a decision before you take the next step. Don't feel pressured and if you feel uncomfortable, you have the option of saying no, or suggesting that safe sex would be an alternative you feel more comfortable with on this ocassion. You shouldn't put yourself in a position where you do it because you feel uncomfortable about saying no or feeling under pressure, this is your body and you decide what goes into it or where you go with it. Only you have the ability to decide what happens next and this is probably the most critical moment in this whole process. Preparing yourself for some bareback action Okay, so you've made it this far, so this indicates that you're pretty much ready to do this. Before you experience any penetration, it's a great idea for you to prepare yourself so that you are in optimum condition for when things progress to the action stage. Here are somethings to watch out for: * Shaving: Ensure that you wait a reasonable amount of time after shaving your ass, balls or cock area before you bareback or get cum or other bodily fluids anywhere near these areas. If you happen to cut or nick yourself during the shaving process, then your body needs time to heal these wounds, otherwise any bodily fluids may have an opportunity to make their way into the bloodstream through an open wound. Brushing your teeth may appear harmless, however, if you are going to take a load of cum in your mouth or if pre-cum is going to make its way into your mouth, then you need to remember that this bodily fluid could get into your bloodstream very easily. It's best to not brush your teeth right before oral sex, or right after it, as cuts could pose a risk. It is important to make sure that your asshole is clean, otherwise the smell could be a real turn-off, and you don't want that! What you need to do is give yourself a clean out to flush away anything which could get in the way of a good time. This action will also assist in eliminating any sharp food objects which could result in tearing the rectum from the friction of the thrusting, resulting in possible bodily fluid gaining access to the bloodstream. Be careful not to use soap or anything harsh which may strip away the protective lining of the rectum, as this can pose problems. You might not think that this is a big deal, however, it could very quickly become a problem if bodily fluid makes its way from one partner to the other. Also check for things like sores or other symptoms of a Sexually Transmitted Infection. Just make sure that you are healthy and not placing any unnecessary risks onto yourself or your partner. Don't apply too much, otherwise there will be less friction, resulting in less sensation. In saying this, make sure that you apply enough, otherwise too much friction will place extra demand on the rectum, which could lead to tearing where bodily fluid could then have access to the bloodstream. If your ass is too tight, once the thrusting begins, a large amount of stress could be placed on the rectum, so to prevent any bleeding, some loosening up may assist. Don't make yourself so loose that it appears you've had a large object inside you, otherwise your partner may not feel anything. All systems go - getting down to business This is what you've been waiting for! The moment has finally arrived where you are ready for some action. You've been a busy boy doing your research and preparation, but it's worth it because you're worth it and although you've made the decision to bareback, you've taken as many precautions as possible while doing things naturally. Make sure that the hole is lubed up with a small amount of lubricant. Smear a small amount over the hole and then push some inside the hole with your finger and spread the lubricant inside your hole. Get your partners hard penis and rub some lubricant over the surface, making sure that there's some extra lubricant over the head of his penis. If you are the top, place your cock up against your partners hole and push forward slowly so that you can get past the sphincter muscle (where it can really hurt a bit), then keep going (unless the bottom signals to stop or pull out for a moment). Once you've made it all the way in and your pubic hair is resting on his butt, slide your penis in and out of his hole slowly a couple of times to spread the lube inside his hole. Also check the amount of friction and if more lube is needed, now would be a good time. Now that the cock and ass have had some time to get to know each other, go for it! Feel the sensation and enjoy the moment and if there is any pain or you notice that something doesn't feel right, take a moment to check things out. You may have made a decision that he will pull out before ejaculation takes place to lower the risk of bodily fluid transmission. Just remember that pre-cum may have Sexually Transmitted Infections present, so pulling out may help, but may not stop any possible transmission from taking place. Some guys enjoy the sensation of the cum transferring from one partner to the other, so the decision about what you want should be made before penetration takes place to avoid any concerns or disappointment.
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