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Super-chic Rachel Bilson fell for her slightly geeky co-star Adam Brody, on-screen and off. Christina Aguilera recently traded in piercings for petticoats, apparentl y making the usual Marilyn Monroe morph. But there's more than meets the eye: Sure, she's blond, buxom and sweet-voiced now, but she's also emul ating the classic bombshell in matters of the heart. You see, Aguilera's fiance, like Monroe's husband, playwright Arthur Mill er, is kind of a geek. When Aguilera announced her engagement to smarty-pants music executive Jo rdan Bratman in February, the 24-year-old pop star demonstrated a tried- and-true dating trick. Bratman, with his scrawny frame and oversize ears, has mastered the music industry at just 26 and is Romeo enough to have stolen Aguilera's heart (as well as inspired her new demure-coquette look). "A nerd is an excellent provider and a guy who puts you first," says E J ean Carroll, Elle magazine's love and sex advice columnist. "He'll turn out to be a great father and a great husband." And, she insists that a woman who is willing to stick it out with a nerd and get past his quirks will be handsomely rewarded. "If you stick with him, he's going to turn out t o be really great." This month, reality TV celebrates geek love with two shows: Ashton Kutcher's "Beauty and the G eek," which pairs braniacs with bimbos for a "social experiment," and th e latest installment of "Average Joe," in which a pretty girl woos not-s o-studly dudes (airing on June 22). On Fox's "The OC," the nerdy Seth Cohen (played by Adam Brody) didn't j ust land the adorable Summer Roberts (Rachel Bilson) on TV - he managed to get the girl in real life, too. Bilson (and her character) managed to look past the slicked-down hair to find the witty guy beneath.
Members can meet and select a perfect mate (guys with screen names like " thinkspecs" and "ivygrad") based on favorite board game and gadget inste ad of eye color, height and other categories the nerds might be lacking. And according to Koppel, the pool is stocked with supreme sci-fi fans and accomplished intellects. "And they're pretty faithful people, because they're certa inly grateful for anything they have." When it comes to the between-the-sheets aspect of the relationship, Carro ll agreed that a girl couldn't do much better than a less-than-perfect m ale specimen. "We've all been to bed with the guy who is worried about w hat he looks like, checking the mirror before he gets in bed," she said. "The nerd, gloriously, stunningly, perfectly, is into the woman. Tiger's purr-fect It seems to be enough for the likes of goddess models and Hollywood A-lis ters. Tiger Woods has a geek-like drive for a stodgy sport, a fat bank a ccount and Swedish model Elin Nordegren on his arm. David Arquette may n ot have the body of a Greek god, but he managed to land sexy former Frie nd Courteney Cox with his goofy humor and mismatched wardrobe. For Scott Dennis, a 34-year-old teacher from Cobble Hill, Brooklyn, "geek " and "good guy" are synonymous - and he is both. Although some aspects of his personality make him what he called a "quintessential babe magnet " (former jock, drummer in a rock band), the real qualities that helped him land his girlfriend are the geeky ones. Certainly," he say s "Am I familiar with the Four Move Checkmate? Bu t the truth is I'm a decent guy with diverse interests who actually offe rs authenticity in his relationships." But to get to that authentic nerd, chic women have to be willing to embra ce their own inner geek and accept the guy for who he is, chess trophies and all. The caveat to mating with a geek, as some dating experts see i t, is coming to terms with his less-than-studly looks and less-than-suav e demeanor. All thoughts of embarrassment have to go out the window. Andrea Lavinthal, who co-authored (with Jessica Rozler) "The Hookup Handb ook," a young woman's guide to navigating the waters of singlehood, says that being sure of your choice of guy is first and foremost. "Girls tend to worry about what their friends are going to think," she sa id, "and you have to get over it. Give him the respect he deserves, and don't always be assumi ng you're better than him." She also said that not all girls are ready for a full-on geek relationshi p right from the start. Her book has a chapter devoted to "The Snufalufa gus Hookup," the one that every girl wishes her friends didn't know abou t, and that she at first tries to deny happened. "In many ways, it's the first foray into the nerdy guy thing," Lavinthal said. "You're attracte d to him because he doesn't screw around. Sure, it's fun to make out wit h the hot bartender, but you're not going to marry him." Not falling for the fakes Koppel, however, warns that unserious girls who prowl his site looking fo r a breadwinner should use caution - his members may be geeky, but they sure aren't stupid. "I think geeks are intelligent enough to be wary of the idea that an attractive woman is interested in them," he said. "They aren't as drawn to beauty as they are to intelligence, and wouldn't jus t accept a ditz." Kate Hammer, an NYU stude nt, said she's just that kind of girl. "My ex and I bonded over 'Star Trek,' and on our first date at an amuseme nt park, my current boyfriend impressed me with his intricate understand ing of the physics of roller coasters. For a modern girl who is far from ditzy, the geek could be the mate who b rings security and a load of eclectic interests to the relationship. Eve n the once-naughty Aguilera managed to find a guy who defines devotion a nd doesn't compete to be the sexiest one in the relationship.
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