5/19    How do I deal with multiple potential gf?
        \_ Dating advice on motd?
        \_ Post their name, pic url , and contact here.
        \_ try before you buy.
           \_ But I am weak in the conscious department,
              I can't get myself to do it without feeling too guilty.
              \_ How is this not conscientious?  Lots of people date around
                 before committing to a person.  Just because you go on
                 a date doesn't mean you married them.
                 a date doesn't mean you married them.  Some people draw
                 the line at sex though,  but that's up to each party.
              \_ If you are in a semi-vegetative state, how are you going to
                 satisfy even a single mate?
        \_ Modern dating has gotten really screwed up.  You're supposed to
           try out a lot of different people with a date or two before you
           commit to one.  That's the IDEA.  Think of it as a friendly job
           interview.
           \_ But where do you draw the line? You don't take multiple
              job offers. But sometimes after getting a job offer, you
              still want to see if you can get that google job, but you
              don't know if google actually want you. If google doesn't
              want you, then you will take this offer, after all, one
              needs a job. But does this really apply to dating? Although
              employers also have multiple candidates lined up, they don't
              send out multiple offers at the same time.
              \_ Didn't you just answer your own question?  You don't make
                 multiple commitments.  Duh.  I would say don't sleep with
                 them either, but I say that goes till your married.
              \_ true story. a friend of mine had a phone interview at google.
                 the interviewer was an asshole and he didn't get a real
                 interview. a few months later he gets a job at a web company.
                 two days after he starts work he gets a call from google.
                 someone saw his master's thesis and they want to hire him. he
                 quits his job and goes and works at google and has been very
                 happy ever since. it's a true story, but you can think of it
                 as a dating parable if you so desire.
                 \_ so you should write lots of erotic stories and post them
                    around on the net in the hopes of attracting some
                    random attractive female fan?
                 \_ I've interviewed at google twice.  The second time I was
                    there for almost 8 hours and correctly answered a long
                    list of random and obscure questions from half the
                    engineering staff.  Idiot head recruiter will only say I
                    was "not a good technical fit" when I was teaching their
                    people several things they didn't know during the
                    interview process.  I think google interviews are just
                    free training for their staff.
        \_ deal?  gf != wife.  Date all of them.  Until you "get serious" and
           have some official "we're going steady and not fucking other people"
           agreement, you can do what you want.  Do you really think all of
           them are having sex only with you and not 'dating' others?  Don't
           be so naive.  Not only are girls out there fucking multiple guys
           (and often other girls too) but plenty of them have STDs and know
           it and don't care if they dose you.
        \_ Party girls won't care if you date multiple ppl. Otherwise,
           cowboy up and choose one. If yer a party guy, why would you
           care, anyways?
        \_ Figure out where you draw the line. Two girls at once, it's ok to:
           - go out for coffee
           - social activities / parties
           - go out to dinner
           - kiss
           - 2nd, 3rd base ?
             \_ what does 2nd and 3rd base mean?
                \_ 2nd:  Putting your arm around her shoulders at the movies
                   3rd:  Holding hands
           - have sex with
           - marry
           Decide which checkboxes would make you feel guilty (or perhaps make
           your potential dates jealous) and try not to cross those lines.
           \_ if you're up front about it?  all of the above sound fine.  I've
              seen multiple marriage work just fine.
              \_ If you're honest about it, do whatever you feel comfortable
                 with.  In the absence of complete disclosure, do no more than
                 the other person might expect you to.
        \_ If you choose multi-dating, either you have to lie to your dates or
           you have to put up with their own multi-dating.  The difficulty of
           lying is exponential in its duration and the number of dates.  If
           you consent to their multi-dating, remember that the tunnels of
           love you crawl in and out of are shared by strangers with diverse
           odors and fluid viscosity:  you will be bathing yourself in public
           toilets.  As you savor the sparkling dew from one of their treasured
           orifices, do you stop to wonder which of your fellow suitors
           secreted such delightful nectar?
           \_ Just because you're only dating one girl doesn't mean you're the
              only guy (or girl) she is sleeping with.  My favorite is the
              (very) large number of colleg girls who sleep with other girls
              and honestly don't believe they are cheating because "it isn't
              real sex".  You can still get a long list of STDs from your
              girl friend's girl friend.  OTOH, if you're fucking both of them,
              either at the same or different times then it's share and share
              alike anyway.
              \_ Having a single girl does not mean she will make reciprocal
                 arrangement, but having more and tell them so will most
                 surely engender reciprocity if they stay.  Unless your
                 relationship is platonic or your date far outfoxes you,
                 it is hard not to figure out whether she has other gigolos.
        \_ Who the FUCK deleted this thread?
           \_ Yeah, this was the only halfway interesting thing here.