10/20 I'm 35 years old and I'm on friendster. I have about 80 friends on
friendster, and I'd say 65 of those are either from HS or college
while the other 15 are acquaintances that I met after college. Is it
normal to not make any real friends after college?
\_ I have made some. It is not normal.
\_ Let's step back a bit here. You say you have 80 friends. You
'know' them and maintain contact via friendster. Those aren't
friends. They're just people you know and maybe even like. Friends
are people who are there for you and willing to risk your
friendship to save you from yourself and others. Friends will
sacrifice time and money and go out of their way for your benefit
even when you're being a dweeb. No one has 80 friends. To answer
your question now: people make just as many real friends after
college as they do during or before. You just have more people to
party with from your earlier days than most.
\_ don't be a loser! Get out of the house! Here, make a movie this
weekend: http://www.48hourfilm.com/sanfran_2003.htm
\_ normal? who cares what's normal? it's normal to spend most of
your time sitting in front of the tv, driving around,
working in a cubicle with people you hate, and getting wasted
with the poeple from work who you hate the least.
\_ hey that sounds like me, except the driving around part
since I live only 3 miles from work
-happy sysadm who lives in mountain view
\_ So you RIDE BIKE! to work to USE LINUX! and LIGHT CANDLE?
Once there do you USE SHOWER?
\_ less the driving around part, it sounds vaguely japanese salary
person -ish.
\_ you should question whether the friends from HS and college
are really "close" friends, or are they just "acquaintances"?
most of my friends from HS and college turn out not to be as
great of friends as the ones I made after college.
or maybe the friends you made after college are too mature for
friendster ;) j/k.
\_ I keep in contact with one friend from HS and none from college,
unless you count my gf. Most of my friends I met after college.
\_ Do you count siblings?
\_ They're never friends. You're splitting the estate with
them. They're just competition.
\_ 7 HS, 3 College, 11 Post-College. I went to Cal, so I made no
friends in college. 25 years old.
\_ Only 80? I have 29,000+ friendster friends. |