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It's each guy's responsibility to find a woman that's the best possible choice for HIM. This one time, when he's choosing his future wife, he needs to focus exclusively on his own needs and making sure they are satisfied. Trust us, nobody else in the world, least of all your wife, is worrying about your needs or wants. Once you're actually married, you'll find that everything about marriage, legal, financial, and emotional, will be about HER and the kids. Your needs will be dead last, or even more likely, not even recognized. You will be just a provider, a mechanic, or whatever type of worker bee the woman and children happen to require at the moment. So, take this one chance, young man, to make sure that the woman you are looking for satisfies YOUR needs and wants. So forget about what's politically correct or socially responsible. That's the best thing you can do for yourself, and for your future wife. All these things are really great, and make for a wife who is nice to be around. These are the skills and habits that make them a good wife. There are a whole set of attitudes and habits that each partner needs to bring. The "wifely" skills are those that the woman needs to have, or learn darned quick, if she's going to make you happy. In fact, the woman's "wifely" skills are probably the most important single factor in the success of the marriage. The woman, with her better emotional strength, and her vastly superior ability to track and manage the health of the relationship, is the key to long term success. Of course, in the past 50 years, women have disavowed those wifely skills, as well as their natural responsibility for the relationship. No wonder that so many marriages are miserable, and the rate of divorce is sky-high! So here's a practical tip for all you intrepid wife-hunters. Remember that the qualities that make a woman a good wife may be quite different from those that make her a good girlfriend. As the saying goes "American women are great for easy casual sex, but make terrible wives". Don't assume that a woman, just because she's a hot girlfriend, will make a good wife for you. Look for a woman who may *not* make a great girlfriend, but *will* make a fantastic wife! Cooking, cleaning, mothering, nurturing, wants kids, loves kids, loyal, trustworthy. What is important is that the wife does not have a real negative attitude towards doing those things. Any trace of snobbery at doing traditional female tasks is a bad sign of a princess. Marrige is a case where both partners need to give up something to get somthing different and greater in return. If anyone is selfish about the realtionship then it won't work. And a marrige except for a few cases needs someone to be a provider, and someone to be a domestic. They will ALWAYS be preoccupied with fairness and feel they are being taken advantage of. They never realize that a marriage is letting your guard down and mutually trusting the other person! Always check out the mom today to see your honey tomorrow. If you're not that agressive about your career, it's ok to marry a woman who is. Basically, marriage doesn't work all that well when you have two driven, ambitious people. Just SOMETHING that requires some level of fiscal responsibility, organizational skills, professional interpersonal skills along with taking the "good and the bad" for some higher goal. Not someone who walks away as soon as some level of disomfort approaches, or is afrait to persue ANY goal. You need to have clear evidence that she took the right lesson -- if not, you're going to have a nightmare marriage dominated by her suspicion, paranoia, and total inability to please. You are going to get older and fatter and her libido is going to go off a cliff as she gets older and has kids. If she is even slightly hard to deal with sexually now (in terms of giving it up, or in terms of demanding things from you now) she is going to be IMPOSSIBLE to deal with five years after marriage. If she can't get there on time when she's single, she'll never be there on time to pick up your kids from daycare or baseball practice. Your post reminded me of a female co-worker of mine who used to say she'd never date anyone from work. She is getting 50 minutes a week of 'how to hate men' brainwashing. And it's expensive as fuck and you'll be expected to pay for it.
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