1/29    Everyone out ranks me in my office.  Lately there has been a
        lot of office tension, and everyone takes it out on me.  Short of
        telling them to fuck off, what should I do if they yell at me for
        things i have no control over?
        \_ You're already going to get a bad reference from this place.
           Might as well tell the next jerk to fuck off because you're not
           the office piss boy.  You'll always be treated as poorly as you
           let yourself be.  No fear.  Never take a job you can't afford to
           quit.
        \_ It's amazing how often people bitch about work.  Get used to it
           man.  Bent over and take it like a man.  Or alternatively you
           can dream about grad school all day and bitch on the motd about
           GREs and greedy people in industry and how you're an "intellectual"
           that doesn't care about money.  Bitch.
                \_ You're the same guy who cursed at everyone. You have a lot
                   of anger within you. PLEASE GET HELP.
        \_ Shoot them
        \_ bring a lot of gun literature and read it conspicuously
                at work
        \_ quit your job, get over the Golden Shackle belief, and you will
           be happy.
        \_ tell them to fuck off.
        \_ Write a nice, polite letter explaining that you're quitting
           due to bad treatment.  -John
           \_ Write a nice, polite letter explaining that you're *suing*
              due to bad treatment.
                \_ Oh yeah, keep forgetting you can do these kinds of
                   things in the US;  you're so expensive for companies here
                   to hire that the smart ones would rather treat you well
                   than get you mad enough that you'd quit :-)  -John
        \_ Assuming you have a relationship with your manager that allows for
           such conversations...ask your manager for some quiet time to talk
           about the situation.  Keep the conversation bottom-line oriented,
           and let him/her know about your concerns and focus on how you
           would like to resolve the issues and turn conversations like that
           around.  Let him/her know that it is affecting your morale at work
           and you'd like to stay positive and focused on your job instead
           of feeling otherwise.  You can also opt to take the more direct
           route, and let people know that you are doing your best, let them
           know what you can and cannot do, and ask them how you can be of
           help to them...and firmly tell them you can't help them if they
           are upset, or if you are also upset.  A lot of it calls for
           validation of their feelings as well as a recognition of their
           behavior on your feelings.  I would still follow up with your
           manager and give him/her an "fyi" on the situation and the
           action items you've taken to help alleviate the situation. I am
           not sure what your office dynamic is like, but I hope this
           helps. --chris
           \_ i knew this was xtin before i got to the bottom of the entry.
           \_ wow, should i expect group therapy too?
        \_ wall about it and see if sameer can help you. -ali